I come from a family of passionate yellers. When there was a fight in our family, it was usually a knock down drag out. For about 5-10 minutes. Then everyone went to their respective rooms, cooled off, came back out, apologies were made (usually) and everyone moved on.
My husband does not work like that.
I remember once, when my family was in the midst of one of these arguments, my husband (then boyfriend) and sister-in-law (then brother’s girlfriend) were in the kitchen. Ashley was singing Jesus Loves Me softly to herself. Her family didn’t yell like that either apparently.
For some reason, yelling works for my family of origin (mom, dad, brother), but it does not work for my husband (The counselor in me says its still probably unhealthy, but oh well). So we’ve had to live and learn other ways to “argue”.
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